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100 Family Media Literacy Activities, Ages Pre-School through Teen Years
Are You a “High Hopes” Parent?
Attending to Our Children’s Attention Span
Building the Foundation for Resiliency Skills
Live and Play in Your World: Stimulus Addiction and the Growing Brain
Looking for Meaning in All the Right Places
Parenting Today: The World Has Changed, Have We?
Parenting as a Living System
Reading the Screen
Screen Time and Obesity
Screen Violence: Impact on Self as Relational Being
Teaching Children Gratefulness
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Building the Foundation for Resiliency Skills (cont.)
Appreciative statements and questions for children, ages 11-14
- I very much want to hear what you have to say and I want to be able to listen to you. Right now I’m trying to get dinner ready, but I’ll stop if you think it’s important. Or we can talk after dinner. Your choice.
- Sometimes it takes courage and integrity to be your unique self. What do you appreciate about yourself for not going along with your friends in this situation?
- I hope you are valuing all the effort you put into…
- I want you to acknowledge yourself for…
- I know you are feeling badly right now and wish your friend was nicer to you. What can you do to be gentle with yourself until you feel better?
- I’m really grateful for all your help (around the house, when I was sick, with our move, etc.). I hope you know how important your contribution was.
- I’m glad that we don’t have to agree and that we can still respect each other’s opinions.
- I think it’s very positive you can express yourself so well. How are these strong feelings serving you right now?
- I can see that you struggled with that choice and I admire that you took the time you did.
- I am so glad you see that family time is just as important as time with your friends
Appreciative statements and questions for teens, ages 15-18
- Mother to daughter: I know you want to spend Friday night and Saturday at Sally’s house and that’s fine with me, if we can be sure we will have next weekend for a special time together. What would you like to plan to do?
- Father to son: Spending Saturday hiking with John and his family seems like great fun. Next weekend I’d like you and I to take some time to…
- I am growing to respect the adult in you that I see emerging.
- Sounds like that was a tough decision, but you made it!
- I like what I’m seeing in this report card. Your commitment to your academic progress will serve you well.
- I admire how you are taking care of your health (responsibilities, college application, etc.)
- I appreciate the seriousness with which you are approaching drivers’ education.
- You know how to make good decisions on your own behalf. Would it help if we discussed the pros and the cons before you decided one way or another?
- I can see that you are trying to understand me and I value that greatly. As you get older, sometimes it’s hard for me to let go.
- What you have to say is always important to me. And I appreciate you sharing.
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